How to Know if a Guy Likes You? (For Girls)

 

1. Examine his body language.
Body language can be the "big tell" when it comes to discerning if that guy fancies you enough to date you. Interestingly, body language experts believe that while females have around 52 body language tells to show a guy that they're interested, guys show around only 10. If you subscribe to this theory, this should make your guessing a little easier! All the same, you still need to know what to look for, as well as being sure that you're not mistaking innocent gestures for calls of love––the latter mistake could prove embarrassing.

• He looks at you a lot. His eyebrow may even lift as he watches you ("the eyebrow flash" that lasts a fifth of a second). He might not even be really conscious he is watching you as much as he is.
• He leans towards you a lot. Personal space invasion is a sign of major interest.
• Check the direction of his hands, feet, legs, toes, etc. If they're pointed toward you, it's a subconscious indicator of his interest in you.
• He starts grooming himself. He pulls at his tie to straighten it or he readjusts the fit of his sweater. Perhaps he runs his hands through his hair in attempt to tidy it or he reaches down to tie his shoelaces. Doing this repeatedly is similar to the actions of a male bird preening up his feathers for a display!
• Check out how he's sitting. If you see rather manly gestures, such as sitting with open legs or placing his hands on his hips, he's trying to impress.
• If he likes you, you may see that he rarely turns his back to you, often leans towards you, and also looks at you a lot.

 2. Notice his eye contact.
As already noted, a guy who is interested in you will look at you a lot,  even if covertly. He may try to catch your eye or, if he's shy, he may suddenly turn his head away if you catch him checking you out. To test his interest, scan his face for four seconds, then look away (don't look any longer or it becomes awkward). Then look back––if he maintains or increases eye contact with you, he's interested. If his eyes wander to your mouth, he's definitely interested. If you feel like you have held eye contact just a fraction of a second longer than you would with anyone else, or if he looks away quickly, then there is something there. On the other hand, if he breaks eye contact with you and starts looking around the room, he's not interested in you.

• A gaze that has him looking left, then sweeping over your face, then looking right is a sign he's very attracted to you.
• Be careful not to confuse a shy guy's darting retreat from eye contact with a guy who is clearly disinterested. A shy guy who is interested will continue to steal glances at you. Be patient!
• If you don't like the guy, it can be uncomfortable to maintain eye contact; break it off quickly and scan the room yourself, as if looking for someone else.
• When he's around you and he says or does something funny and everyone around laughs, his eyes will flicker towards you for a second to see if you laughed too––this means he's keen to make a good impression on you.

• His pupils may dilate if he likes you, but this is quite hard to pick up on, and you might come across as acting strangely by looking that closely into his eyes. If you're around him for a long time, it could be easier to pick up on gradually.

 

3. Watch for him showing a sudden, previously unexpressed interest in things that you like and do.
For example, if you like a certain genre of music that he doesn't know as well, he may ask you to suggest bands or artists for him to listen to. Or, he may have gone to the trouble of finding out that a favorite band of yours is playing next weekend and mention to this, with or without a request to go and listen together. And, if you introduce him to a TV show that he didn't really know about and that becomes his new favorite thing, that can potentially be a sign that he likes you, especially if he goes out of his way to catch up with you to discuss the show's unfolding plot.




4. Pay attention to his friends.
If they know he's interested in you, they might tease him subtly when you're around, hint to you that he likes you, or even try to find out if you like him. Study their reactions to your presence––do they smile? Do they turn to him? Do they smirk in a way that suggests they know something that you don't?




5. See if he follows you.
Following you can be another sign; for example, if you buy lunch and sit at a table and he edges as near to, or even on the same, table as you, he is probably trying to get closer to you. Just be sure you're not confusing this action with there being a lack of space to sit anywhere else!






6. Pay attention to gentle, friendly teasing.
If a guy teases you in a friendly and fun manner, it could indicate his interest, especially if he's young. Provided this isn't his modus operandi with every girl he flirts with, it's a sign that he's singled you out for attention and is trying to use his wit to charm you, in that awkward way of using humor to cover up true intentions. Of course, if he says something unkind or unfortunate, don't feel you have to excuse it––point it out if he offends you; it's best he knows now that you won't take nonsense than to discover it later.



7. If he chats to you often on a social networking site, it may mean that he likes you. 
After all, when online there are many things competing for his time, like games, connecting with mates and checking out sites that might not be so interesting to you… Of course, he could also just be talkative, friendly, or even bored, so don't assume he's into you just for chatting––this should be treated as an extra indicator.

 
 
8. Watch to see if he has suddenly developed a habit of turning up where you happen to be.
If he suddenly seems to be in certain places at certain times of the day where you wouldn't necessarily expect to see him, it may be that he's taken to deliberately "finding" opportunities to bump into you. If it happens a lot in a short space of time, it's probably no coincidence but a concerted effort to catch up with you as much as possible.




9. Be receptive to his signals.
If he shows genuine interest in you, (for example, he smiles at you a lot whenever the two of you pass each other or he goes out of his way to say hello to you), be friendly and polite back. If you've already decided that he's someone you'd like to date, don't let it go too long before facilitating an opportunity for the two of you to get together to talk in a quiet place

How to Spot Fake Friends?

Selfish Behavior
Fake friends tend to be very one-dimensional. They think about their needs and are very oblivious to the needs of others. They only call you when they want or need something and they are very unapologetic about it. If your friends can't deem you worthy enough to talk to other than when they need you. Cut them off!


Gossip and Drama
My mother used to say, "If they will talk about someone to you, then nine times out of ten, they are talking about "you" to someone else. Gossip is a terrible thing. It's a stirring pot of drama and just creates bad energy. It hurts other people and it can make you look and feel bad about yourself in the long run. One sure sign that your friends aren't really your friends, is when you find that you gossip more when around them.

A real friend would never bother to sit around to constantly entertain such miscellaneous conversation. A real friend also wouldn't allow others talk about you or anyone else in a negative way without you being there to defend yourself.


You Have To Mask Yourself While Around Them
If you feel like you have to be someone other than your normal self around your friends then chances are they aren't your real friends. We all know this feeling. You go out with these people but you feel like you need to dress or talk differently in order to fit in.


Lies and Competition
Fake friends are typically ashamed of who they are. They hate any and everything that has to do with honesty. It's lies that keep them feeling good about themselves. These types of friends also feel the need to compete with you on a regular basis.

For instance; Let's say that you went out bought a new outfit, and you get a few compliments from people. Someone asks where did you buy your outfit? After you politely answer the question, watch how quickly your fake friend will go out of their way to talk about the new outfit that they bought. They will mention everything from the price, brand, store and even the name of the sales clerk, basically going out of their way to make it seem like their purchase and taste in fashion is much more exquisite than yours. Which would be quite odd since nobody ever asked them about what they bought in the first place.

Choose to share some good news with a friend shouldn't have to always propel him or her into a "me too" reaction. You should never be made to feel like you have to compete with your friends and vice versa. And no one should have to embellish on the truth to seek a more favorable opinion of themselves from others.

We are what we are. There is absolutely no point in making illusions and making up lies. Even if it did make other people like you more, they're liking a 'fake you,' which is more sad then having people dislike the real you.


Never Happy When You Achieve Something Great
If your friend tends to have something negative or insulting to say to you everytime you have some good news to share, have achieved something great, then this is not a real friend. Real friends are supportive and they are constantly sharing positive words of encouragement. They are also very selfless - they see potential in you, even when you can't see it in yourself. Pay attention to their reaction and body language, see if they seem genuine. 85% of communication is non-verbal so it should be easy to read right through them.

Friends are more than just good company. They are influential people in your life. They can either have a negative influence or a positive one. They are supportive and loving even when there is indifference and they play a big role in how you see and interact with the world.

Be the person you want to be and you'll attract individuals with the same beliefs, opinions, values, etc. The truth always comes out.

How to Tell Someone Their Behaviour is Unacceptable?

We all have to deal with difficult people at some point. In most cases we can ignore these individuals and get on with our lives, but what if their behaviour has crossed the line and is completely unacceptable? How can we effectively approach an individual and express our concerns about their behaviour without creating a bigger problem?


Below are four necessary and effective steps that will enable you to address this issue in a dignified and cordial manner.


Be Compassionate
Believe it or not most people don't realize their behavior is offensive. Informing someone that you disapprove of their behaviour should be done with compassion and concern. Being verbally aggressive will cause the person to become defensive and they aren't likely to take you seriously.
You might initiate the conversation by saying, "There's something that's been bothering me and I really value our friendship/relationship, so I feel it is important that we talk about it." This shows that you care, and that you're not trying to make them wrong.

One on One
Unless you feel threatened by the individual, it is best to speak with them confidentially. You don't want them to feel ganged up on. Discussing the issue in private also shows that you care about the person's feelings. They will likely see that you aren't trying to hurt or embarrass them if you handle the situation in this way. If, however they won't listen and they continue with the behaviour or you feel you are not the right person to handle the situation, be sure to bring it to the attention of someone who will deal with it in a mature and loving way.

Address the Behaviour, Not the Person
One of the biggest mistakes we make when communicating with another about behavioral issues is that we make the person the problem rather than the behaviour. For example saying, "You are so careless" is making the person into the problem; where saying, "Some of the things you do make it seem as if you don't care..." is dealing with the behaviour. People respond much more favorably to this kind of communication.

Be Prepared
It is important to know what you are going to say ahead of time. If you go in to the situation unprepared you're much more likely to get pulled into an angry dispute. Use the above tips to help you plan an effective and caring approach.
When someone is behaving in a way that is offensive, it is not loving to allow that behavior to continue. You can be sure that if it bothers you, it bothers others. If their behavior is not dealt with it can prevent that person from having meaningful relationships or achieving success.
Although it is unpleasant to speak to someone about their behavior, it really is the right thing to do.